Kai has been a handful lately. He is starting to throw tantrums and fits and has an ear pounding scream when he doesn't get what he wants. It's been hard to know what to do when he acts like this, and it makes my days at home more of a challenge. I find myself very discouraged and disappointed with myself not always being the best mom; not always knowing what to do and not only that but enjoying doing it. Then I came across this article (
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glennon-melton/dont-carpe-diem_b_1206346.html ) and realized that motherhood doesn't need to be about enjoying every second of it. Being a Mom is hard and although everyone around you is telling you to enjoy every minute because it goes by fast, I know that as long as I am noting and remembering the good moments then all the hard stuff I can grit my teeth and just get through. Because honestly, no, I do not enjoy trying to calm Kai down in the middle of the store, or forcing him into his car seat, or cleaning up his high chair for the millionth time, those are the moments I do hope go by fast. But I do enjoy watching Kai's face light up when he laughs because I pulled a funny face, and hear his babbles in the back seat of the car while I am driving, and just like it said in the article I feel so blessed to afford all the food I feed my family. These moments I know may not last forever, there will come a day when I pull a funny face and Kai will roll his eyes, or instead of cute babbles in the backseat I will hear fighting and if circumstances arise there might be a day when paying for food doesn't come so easy. I am finding peace in enjoying the good moments and feeling the accomplishment of getting through the bad.
Here are a few pictures of the good moments!
Making brownies with Kai
Catching Kai "decorating" his room wearing his favorite boot (he asks me frequently to put this boot on him, I think he is drawn to the color). The other boot was thrown in the D.I. bag by Kai without anyone noticing, so now he gets to wander around the house in just one boot.
2 comments:
For what it's worth, I think you're a great mom and Ben is a great dad. We really look up to you and the way you include Kai in everything you do. He's going to be a great kid. You make having a baby look fun and do-able and enjoyable, which is a huge relief for me! I know I'll ALWAYS look to you guys for how to have an amazing family dynamic. :)
Hang in there! No matter what stage they're in, it's always something. And I will NEVER say I enjoyed every minute of it lol. You're a great mom and Kai is so cute. Unfortunately, the tantrum years are just beginning. He'll learn that he can't always get away with it. ;) Just remember the good times make the hard times worth it.
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